Book Summary:
How to talk to anyone was published in 1998 by Leil Lowndes. It’s main purpose is to help you become more graceful and effective in social situations by mastering conversation.
Related Book Summaries:
How To Win Friends And Influence People – Dale Carnegie
How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less – Nicholas Boothman
Quotes:
When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them.
Whenever people meet you, they take an instant mental snapshot. That image of you becomes the data they deal with for a long time.
Book Summary Notes:
- Since we rely on communication for nearly everything we do in life, it makes sense to at least try and become more effective with it.
- First impressions are really important and don’t forget that even something as simple as a smile can go along way when you first meet someone.
- When you first meet someone the first thing you do or say is usually seared into the mind of the person meeting you, remember this and act accordingly.
- Steady eye contact is important for gaining both respect and attention.
- Turning toward someone when you meet them for the first time is important, greeting them as if they were an old friend can also help you to make them feel comfortable with you.
- Make it easier on yourself, if you have someone you’d like to meet request a mutual friend introduce you ahead of time, if you need to you can even ask your friend some questions ahead of time so that you can get an idea of something you might be able to strike up an easy conversation about.
- Sometimes the easiest way to strike up a conversation is to ask about something the other person has of is wearing, these ice breakers can help ease the tension of meeting new people and make it much easier to start conversations.
- On the flip side if your the one doing the intro you can drop some easy conversation points for your friends by mentioning things they both like or have in common as you make the introduction.
- Do you have a friend who loves to tell a particular funny story? Give them an opening when you introduce them.
- People tend to like those who they have things in common with.
- You can speed up the friendship process by using the words ‘we’ and ‘us’ people tend to only use these words around close friends.
- Everyone feels like they do good work that goes unappreciated. Go out of your way to let people know they did a good job.
- Being more considerate is an easy way to improve existing relationships.
- In professional settings be direct and to the point when speaking with superiors.
- Always do your research before attending meetings.
- People with larger vocabularies are often seen as more intelligent and creative.
